Let's Just See How Lovable You Are

Want to know something really neat?!

You are 100% lovable.  Always have and always will be.

There is nothing that you need to do different or change to be loved more.

Really, this world needs more love.  I know it sounds cliché but it’s true.  If we all could just see each other’s innate worth and lovability, can you imagine what this world would be like? What if we were all just confident in who God made us and loved ourselves even?  Not in an arrogant way, because arrogance is not love, but in a self-confident way.  Self-confident love is knowing your worth but recognizing everyone around you has the same worth.

And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Colossians 3:14

You should really love yourself in a self-confident way.  I recommend it.  It doesn’t matter if someone else doesn’t love you.  Loving yourself is about giving yourself the gift of feeling love every day.  This way you don’t have to seek love from other people.

Did you know that you being loved is not about YOU?  If your father wasn’t around and didn’t love you as a child, it wasn’t your fault.  He didn’t have the capacity to love. You were and are completely lovable.  He had the problem, not you.  He missed out on the awesome feeling of love.

Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps now record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves.  Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8a

Split up lovability.  It means the ability to love.  Ability is entirely on the person feeling or not feeling the love.  It is not about the object.  One person can feel love for the ocean while another person dislikes the ocean.  The ocean doesn’t earn more love from one person. It is the person’s ability to love it. 

Understanding this intellectually is one thing, but emotionally it may be tougher to comprehend. 

You may wonder, “What does this have to do with weight loss?” 

Well, a lot.

I find so many of my clients feel/felt unloved by someone in their lives.  Since this one person may have not had the capacity to love them, they believe they aren’t worth loving.

That is the evil one my friend.  He is looking to destroy.  He destroys by whispering evil sentences in your ear. Those sentences turn into thoughts that we start to believe. Thoughts like, “I’m not lovable enough” or “I’m not worthy of love”.

Thoughts are important.

The thoughts you have about yourself determines how you treat yourself.

Read that again.

The thoughts you have about yourself determines how you treat yourself.

If you believe you are 100% lovable, you will see yourself as precious.  If you see yourself as precious, you look at your body as the temple it is.  If you see your body as a temple, you will treat it and yourself well. 

Or you may believe that you’re not lovable, your body isn’t good enough and isn’t worth the effort.  Well, you’ll treat you and your body as such.

Too many people will tell me, “But I do believe this about myself.”  Well, the proof is in the puddin’ darlin’.  You believe this and your body, your life, your relationships will show it. 

So many of the self-defeating thoughts are just below that conscious level.  Satan is whispering so you don’t fully realize.  Remember, he loves to hide in the shadows.  It is not until you bring awareness to his secrets are you able to set yourself free from his schemes.

But all things become visible when they are exposed by the light, for everything that becomes visible is light. Ephesians 5:13

Don’t let him get away with telling you that are aren’t worthy of love.  You always have been and always will be worthy.  Nothing you can do or say that will change your worthiness of love. 

BUT how you believe in your worthiness can change everything. 

It can change how you love yourself and thus, treat yourself.

Remember, God made us all AMAZING.  We can’t take credit for that amazingness, only God can have that credit. 

We can RECOGNIZE and take ACCOUNTABILITY for how amazing we are.

So, lets do that. 

Recognize the creation God made.

Be responsible for that creation. 

That’s real living.