Reasonable Expectations

Uncategorized May 26, 2021

“I am cutting out all carbs, drinking 100 oz of water a day, exercising for an hour 7 days a week, and adding in 30 minutes of meditation.”

This often the answer I get when I ask clients what they want to start working on.

This is not an exaggeration either.

Can you start implementing all of these at once along with your busy life?

Yeah, me neither.

To top it all off, in the past we’ve tried to change everything all at once.

We failed.

Then we made it mean we aren’t good at the things we tried. Or that we aren’t meant to lose weight and keep it off.

Two weeks ago I told you the “secret” to losing weight and keeping it off…

SELF-CONFIDENCE.

Last week, I outlined the very first and most important step to building self-confidence…

TRUSTING GOD.

Trusting God really is the only step you need. Because if you trust God, you’ll start and you’ll keep going no matter what failures.

But, since most of us are still working on that piece, I want to give you a few more practical steps to building self-confidence.

Today, we are going to dive into REASONABLE expectations and building trust in yourself to FOLLOW THROUGH on them.

Let’s start with reasonable expectations.

I have many women come to me, knowing they need to cut the majority of sugar from their diet. They tell me they are going to eat “clean”. I ask them what that means to them. They say they will only eat whole foods and NOTHING with added sugar.

But right now they are having a bowl of cereal, strawberry yogurt, sandwich, a coke, and usually a bowl of ice cream daily.

Cutting out ALL added sugar from this spot is NOT realistic.

Or, I have the gals that want to exercise 30 minutes a day, at least 4 times weekly. This is a GREAT goal!

But right now, they barely walk across the parking lot.

Again, NOT a realistic expectation right now.

Don't get me wrong. I encourage you to make these kinds of GOALS, but first, you have to make expectations of yourself that you can FOLLOW THROUGH on.

Follow-through is KEY.

I can’t stress this enough.

The more you follow through on what you say you will do for yourself, the more trust you build. The more trust you build, the more confidence you’ll have.

The more confidence you have, the easier it will be to lose weight and KEEP it off (see THIS post if you want the explanation)!

You are not alone if you make lofty expectations of yourself. Every woman I have ever coach, along with myself, has done this.

Here’s what happens when they make these unreasonable requests of themselves...

they don’t follow through and then BEAT THEMSELVES UP when they don’t meet their own unrealistic expectations!

How can you trust yourself or have any confidence in who God made you if you are constantly beating yourself up?

Do you want to build self-confidence? Great!

Now, go! Make REASONABLE expectation of yourself that you KNOW you can FOLLOW THROUGH on.

Get really good at following through on that one expectation and move on to the next small goal that stretches you.

One warning…

this does not mean you just keep doing the same things you are doing now because you think you can’t follow through on anything new.

That’s NOT building trust with yourself. That’s giving in to the enemy and being complacent.

Your spirit knows you can do better. It wants you to grow, change, become stronger.

Let it.

Stop holding back and just lean into God. Trust He’s got this and He will give you what you need, when you need it, to follow through after you’ve made REALISTIC expectations of yourself.

Do you feel like God’s urging you to finally take care of this temple He loaned you? Do you feel unsure how to start or if you can even do this (especially after all the failed attempts)?

Click HERE to pick a time that works for you.